Are Tom Holland and Zendaya The Match We All Think They Are? Exploring Their Personality Compatibility

Since they both starred in Spider-Man: Homecoming in 2016, actors Tom Holland and Zendaya have been captivated by each other. While they started out as friends gushing about each other in interviews, dating rumors were finally confirmed in 2021 after years of speculation. They’ve worked hard to keep their relationship private, but will it last?

Amid rumors of breakups and declarations that the couple could have a real future together, we're turning to their Enneagram and Myers-Briggs personalities to find clues about their relationship's staying power.

Tom Holland is an Enneagram Type Seven and ENFP. He’s adventurous, spontaneous and creative. Zendaya is an Enneagram Type Six and INFJ. She’s loyal, hardworking and empathetic. But do they balance each other out or do their personality traits clash? Read on to learn what makes this celebrity couple work and what challenges they potentially could face. 

The Seven / Six Couple Meet Each Other’s Needs 

Sevens are known for being natural entertainers, boosting the mood of Sixes who can sometimes become anxious. Thanks to their truckloads of energy, Sevens help Sixes feel optimistic. Zendaya has previously stated that Tom is very charismatic. “He can make anybody feel comfortable and have a good laugh and a good chat,” she said. 

Sevens are also excellent brainstormers who thrive on big ideas. Sixes are experts at taking those ideas and putting a practical spin on them so they can become achievable goals. When it comes to putting plans into action, they make a great team!

On the flip side, Sixes support Sevens by being honest with them, something Tom values in Zendaya. “Zendaya is probably the most honest with me [about work]. Which I love, ‘cause you need that," he told The Independent newspaper in 2023.

Both Sixes and Sevens are witty and enjoy mental stimulation. Fans have witnessed the banter between Tom and Zendaya in their social media posts, like the time they addressed rumors that they were dating in a funny tweet exchange. “Wait wait… my favorite is when it says we go on vacations together HA! I haven’t been on a vacation in years!” Zendaya wrote to Tom, who joked back, “Does the press tour count?” 

Understanding each other’s needs helps the Seven-Six pair stay connected, despite their differences. Zendaya’s stylist, Law Roach, has said of her, “People were like, ‘Oh, she’s so fierce.’ And yeah, she is, on the inside. But she’d rather be at home, with her hair down and no makeup, with Noon, her dog, watching a movie, probably Harry Potter.” By comparison, one of Tom Holland’s famous quotes is, “Adrenaline has always been my thing.” 

While Sixes can be more focused on security and avoiding uncertainty, Sevens want to chase adventures and escape their fears. Zendaya gives Tom a soft space to fall, while his zest for life keeps their relationship spicy. 

The ENFP / INFJ Couple is a Harmonious Match

The ENFP/INFJ match is ideal from a romantic perspective. That's because these personality types share the Intuitive trait, and they're both empathetic and considerate to how the other person is feeling. Although expressive, both personality types take their time to build commitment, so they usually prefer a slow-burn relationship. In terms of how they see the relationship developing, it's likely they're on the same page

They’re both also private about their relationship. As an ENFP, Tom keeps his personal opinions to himself, while Zendaya, as an INFJ, is reserved. Tom has previously referred to how their relationship is something they’re “incredibly protective of” and how they want to keep it as “sacred as possible.”

Another reason why they connect so well is because they genuinely find each other interesting, which makes conversations stimulating. Since they share similar values, such as caring about others and being humanistic, they work well together to improve the world. Their high levels of empathy ensure they stay close even when chasing those goals.

Are They Too Similar? 

Too much of a good thing can sometimes lead to issues and, ironically, it's Tom and Zendaya's desire for harmony that could cause the most conflict in their relationship. Both types like to keep the peace, which might cause them to avoid conflict instead of addressing it and working through difficult situations. 

They’re also both Feeling types. However, Zendaya's Feeling is extraverted (the cognitive function Fe), which means she's more focused on other people and makes decisions based on what is right or good for everyone else involved. She may bottle up her feelings to keep her partner happy. On the other hand, Tom's Feeling is introverted (the cognitive function Fi), meaning he makes decisions based on what aligns with his personal values and may struggle with communicating them effectively. This could lead to misunderstandings if they're not careful.

Another similarity is they're both future focused people. INFJs like to plan for the future, but they sometimes need a partner who has vision. Fortunately, ENFPs tend to be imaginative and supportive.

There's enough difference to keep things interesting, though. Tom is spontaneous and loves to go with the flow, while Zendaya is more cautious and enjoys having a plan in place. While their shared traits connect them, these differences add balance and ensure they keep learning from each other.

Having Fun or Something More? 

Zendaya has highlighted the fun she and Tom share in their relationship, but there’s a deeper connection between them that hints at this relationship being more than a celebrity fling. In an interview in which Tom referenced his love of playing golf, he mentioned that he’s involved Zendaya in his hobby, saying, “I’ve given her a few lessons. She’s very naturally talented, a real athlete, so she picked it up really quickly.” When the ENFP partner seeks adventure, having an INFJ willing to join in those experiences is a wonderful thing.

Is it love? Seems like it. “She’s one of the most incredible people I’ve ever met,” Tom has said. “And I love her to bits.” 

Are they in it for the long haul? Only time will tell. Since starting their relationship in 2021, the couple has moved in together, with sources saying they are happy to take this natural next step in their relationship. 

One thing's for sure, as a Six-Seven couple and an ENFP-INFJ pairing, Tom and Zendaya have a foundation of friendship, fun and empathy. Tom feels seen and supported by Zendaya while she enjoys the enthusiasm Tom brings to their relationship. As things go, it's a pretty solid basis for lasting love.