Enneagram 5 Wings
5w4: The 5w4 type is a Five who shares many similarities with the Type Four Individualist. Like Fours, 5w4s tend to be more in touch with their emotions and more self-expressive than other Fives. This type tends to be creative, reflective and sensitive. Common career paths for this type include author, composer, inventor, professor and engineer.
5w6: Enneagram Five wing Six types are Fives who relate to several characteristics of the Type Six. 5w6s are practical, helpful, and organized. While still fiercely independent, 5w6s tend to be more cooperative and loyal than other Fives. They excel in troubleshooting and solving complex problems. Popular careers for this type include accounting, computer science, law enforcement, mathematics and engineering.
Core Values of Enneagram 5s
- Freedom and autonomy are paramount to Investigators. Often, they dream of working and researching alone in a secluded area for the rest of their lives.
- Fives tend to have little regard for social niceties and customs and are entranced by the potential of the unknown.
- During times of uncertainty and confusion, Investigators hold a calm and steady mindset to analyze and figure out the best course of action in the grand scheme of things.
- Above all, Investigators value independence, freedom and understanding.
How to Recognize an Enneagram 5
Investigators are often stoic and detached. They’re fascinated by the ever-expanding realm of unexplored ideas.
Fives are energized by spending hours of time alone, tinkering with their personal projects and research. The path to mastery in a particular area is a journey each Investigator readily embarks on.
They may appear calm and collected on the surface, but when topics of interest come up in conversation, Fives transform into a giddy and energetic version of themselves. This sudden gear-shift may surprise those who are unaware of the Investigator’s hidden passions.
Healthy vs. Unhealthy Enneagram 5s
When they are healthy, Fives become thought pioneers in their fields of interest, and are generally regarded as integral to the intellectual advancement of society. They see large, complex issues with clarity and precision. Through dedication and genuine curiosity, they’re able to catalyze change and advance societal movements. The impossible becomes possible for Investigators, who can bring forth new inventions, systems and ways of thinking with quiet confidence. They become subject matter experts who freely share their wisdom and discoveries with the public. With a talent for simplifying the complicated, Investigators have the potential to communicate previously mind-boggling topics with radical clarity.
When they are average, Fives are offbeat, withdrawn and emotionally closed off. They may have a select few esoteric interests which they keep hidden from the public eye—and opt to present an aloof and distant aura. They’re well-versed in topics of their interest and may be seen as a ‘bookworm’ by peers. During their free time, Investigators tap into the different worlds they’ve created in their minds to escape from the mundane aspects of everyday life such as chores or errands. They may delve into their large collection of books, for example, or enjoy playing strategic board or card games for leisure.
When they are unhealthy, Fives cut off their entire social world, and may develop tunnel vision. They begin to have far-off and radical views, losing grip with reality. With a lack of emotional awareness and foresight, Investigators can find themselves in heated disputes with no clear answers. As a result, some friendships may be severed in the process, which would certainly baffle Investigators. They may rationalize that they’re better off without the presence of people altogether and choose to escape the real world. In addition, they can become addicted to far-off theories few can wrap their heads around and stubbornly cling to a sense of intellectual superiority. This ultimately drives people even further away. At their worst, Investigators can become misanthropic and bitter.
Growth Tips for Enneatype 5s
- Practice healthy hobbies that get you out of your head. Fives may find it difficult to relax and enjoy the present moment. Running, dancing, yoga and other activities that get you moving and in touch with your body can help you unwind in a healthy way.
- It’s OK to ask for help! Fives desire complete autonomy and seek to be self-sufficient. But you likely have people in your life who would love to help you, if you ever asked for it! Take note of moments when you have too much on your plate. Is there anyone who can help? Don’t be afraid to seek support when you need it.
- Step outside of your comfort zone. Sometimes it’s the things that we desire the least that we need the most. When you get a chance to do something outside of your comfort zone — like attend a big social event — practice saying “yes” more often.
- Explore your emotions. Fives use information and knowledge gathering as a way to avoid emotional discomfort. Challenge yourself to sit with your feelings and look into what you may be repressing. Try writing out how you feel and listing what actions you can take (other than ignoring) to deal with these emotions.
- Learn to accept outer world feedback. Fives can get so deep into a rabbit hole that they close themselves off from any criticism or feedback from others. You may assume feedback is useless if you know more about a topic than someone else. But it’s important to stay open-minded and learn how to acknowledge and consider different perspectives.
Famous Enneagram Type 5s
- Albert Einstein
- Bill Gates
- Jane Goodall
- Agatha Christie
- Stephen King
- Jane Austen
- Diane Sawyer
- Mark Zuckerberg
- Emily Dickinson
- Tim Burton
- Stephen Hawking
- “Fox Mulder” (X-Files)
- “Belle” (Beauty and the Beast)
- “Sherlock Holmes” (Sherlock Holmes)
- “Dr. Gregory House” (House)
- “Lisbeth Salander” (The Girl With the Dragon Tattoo)
Type 5s in Relationships
Enneagram Type Fives in relationships are focused, mysterious, and typically quite romantic. Their flavor shows up when they find a partner that intrigues them and, though they tend to be anxious about the outside world and may isolate themselves, they often settle quite happily in marriage with someone they love and trust. When they do lose interest, it’s usually because they met a friend with a shared niche, or they lost the fun and intrigue of the relationship as they figured their spouse out, or they felt overloaded.
Even if they get tired or bored however, it’s important for Fives to remember that no relationship will ever satisfy them perfectly, but it still means we show up and try. Also, Fives need to realize that by going farther down the research hole, they miss out on the energy that can be gained from the virtue of openness. They should try to understand that no amount of research will build back the consistent lack of confidence in their abilities that a Five feels deep down. Instead of trying to hoard information or goods as a defense against this perceived lack, a Five must learn to be content with “enough” versus “all.” Often, relinquishing control and trusting God or a higher power can be a helpful tool for Fives, and can allow them to remember their strengths, or at least try to gain faith in the process of resting and actively sharing.
Emotionally, Fives have trouble moving from their withdrawing, past-focused feelings and inhibited posture to a place of emotional processing, even when their spouse or others have tried to share this with them. This is because they fear their lack of competency. This may be the consequence of facing humiliation, illness, bullying of some form, a gross lack, or a deep sense of overwhelm that was hard to recover from.
If you love a Five, remember it takes them a few days to logically understand their own and your feelings, and they don’t want and likely can’t execute the same level of socializing you can. Remember also, however, that their love delves deep and you can find them thinking about you in small, thoughtful acts that take much of their time and energy. Partners of Fives usually pick the Five initially for their focus on them, their laid back attitude, and their wit and stability. So, it’s helpful when they don’t demand things the Five doesn’t have as their gifts, such as being the life of the party, or being spontaneous, for example. It’s also so important to build up a Five as they need your encouragement to make it through the often grueling days of processing analytically. Encouraging them to take care of themselves, especially with physical activity, is also advised.
Even if they have trauma or illness from the past, remind your Five to take it one day at a time, but honor their story and journey when they do finally open up. If they can’t share feelings, help them to work on this little by little with the help of a counselor or coach, but understand that their feelings are often hard to access. Knowing this, build them up with healthy thoughts about themselves and your relationship frequently, letting them know how strong you think they are, how much you appreciate them and how much you admire them.
Enneagram Relationship content was co-developed with marital therapist turned relationship coach Christa Hardin (MA).
Type 5 Compatibility by Partner Type
- Type Fives with Type Ones: Tend to be both focused and practical. Click here to find the Type 5 & Type 1 couple pairing guide.
- Type Fives with Type Twos: Tend to be both caring and concentrated. Click here to find the Type 5 & Type 2 couple pairing guide.
- Type Fives with Type Threes: Tend to be both centered and project-driven. Click here to find the Type 5 & Type 3 couple pairing guide.
- Type Five with Type Fours: Tend to be both introverted and passionate. Click here to find the Type 5 & Type 4 couple pairing guide.
- Type Fives with Type Fives: Tend to be both focused and innovative. Click here to find the Type 5 & Type 5 couple pairing guide.
- Type Fives with Type Sixes: Tend to be both analytical and planning. Click here to find the Type 5 & Type 6 couple pairing guide.
- Type Fives with Type Sevens: Tend to be both innovating and inspired. Click here to find the Type 5 & Type 7 couple pairing guide.
- Type Fives with Type Eights: Tend to be both anchored and strong. Click here to find the Type 5 & Type 8 couple pairing guide.
- Type Fives with Type Nines: Tend to be both safe and comfortable. Click here to find the Type 5 & Type 9 couple pairing guide.