Enneagram 8 Wings
8w7: The Eight wing Seven type is an Eight who shares many characteristics with the Type Seven. This type is energetic, enthusiastic and may appear more combative than other Eights. Common jobs for this type include entrepreneur, politician, and lawyer.
8w9: The Eight wing Nine type is an Eight who has similar features as the Type Nine Peacemaker. They are confident, calm, and generally more patient than other Eights. Popular jobs for the 8w9 include activist, professor, counselor, and judge.
Core Values of Enneagram 8s
- Competence, influence, power and control — Challengers crave respect as opposed to status or being liked by the group.
- Challengers are set to make an impact, and won’t back down. They pride themselves on their strength, honesty and the truth.
- Challengers also possess an extremely strong inner sense of justice. Loyalty also plays a major role in the Challenger's value system. They’re devoted to those who have proven themselves over time and will stand by them until the end—through hell or high water.
- When danger comes and their loved ones are in trouble, the Challenger will confidently stretch their wings to protect them.
How to Recognize an Enneagram 8
Naturally accustomed to leadership roles, the Challenger makes their presence known and carries an aura of confidence and self-assuredness in their speech and walk.
They typically believe in the mantra of creating your own luck and work very hard to make things happen, no questions asked. Challengers are ruthlessly independent and are unafraid of confrontation, which can get them into major trouble at times.
They naturally butt heads with authority, especially when met with the classic, “You must do this, because I told you so.” Respect is earned through reason and competency, and not through age or status.
Healthy vs. Unhealthy Enneagram 8s
When they are healthy, Eights can be a champion of ideas for those who are oppressed. They’re strong and confident leaders who can be the backbone and driving force for causes and communities. Their energy and commitment to improve upon society and themselves blossoms into new gardens where Challengers can sow their seeds with care. To close friends and family members, Challengers are generous and intensely loving individuals who freely offer refuge and advice. When they learn to develop their caring side, gratitude and joy emerges from their core selves. With this newfound sense of tenderness, Challengers become aware of others’ needs and will freely drop the ‘tough’ persona.
When they are average, Eights are competitive and may view friendships or business relations as a battlefield, always looking for the next challenge to win. They’re assertive and stubborn, but also self-confident and competent. During their down time, they critically evaluate their actions and work towards self-improvement. They avoid showing vulnerability, which can be a roadblock for connection and intimacy. Doing so would demonstrate weakness, which is absolutely unacceptable in their books. As a result, they can be seen as highly ambitious yet intimidating by peers. Their confidence and stamina lifts them to new heights, with each failure serving as a kick for more effort.
When they are unhealthy, Eights can become tyrannical and intimidating, scaring others off at first glance. They become addicted to the pursuit of power, and will destroy anything blocking their way with fury. The feelings and emotions of others become insignificant, as they become blindfolded to the softer side of the human psyche. When their delusions of power get out of hand, Challengers become stone-cold and take an antagonistic stand to anyone who dares to question them and their motives. They may use empty threats to regain power over others and turn existing relationships into tests—where one can only pass or fail. Others may turn their backs on Challengers, who will reason that they were better off working alone. In the end, they may force themselves into loneliness.
Growth Tips for Enneatype 8s
- Check in with what you’re thinking and feeling before making decisions. As a body-based type, Eights act instinctively on their emotions, which can result in impulsive outbursts or decisions that aren’t fully thought through. When you feel the impulse to react, take time to sort through your thoughts and feelings before taking action.
- Learn that vulnerability is strength, not weakness. Eights see their more raw and vulnerable emotions as weak, but growth happens when they learn to see the value in these aspects of their personality. Vulnerability allows Eights to connect more deeply with others, and grow into their highest self.
- Discover your limits. Energetic Eights frequently push themselves to their limits, unaware they are doing so. This may cause them to unknowingly push other people to their limits as well. Pay more attention to your mental and emotional states, and allow yourself time to rest and recover when needed.
- Make an effort to give love to and receive love from others more openly. Eights tend to view other people as either with them or against them. This can make it difficult to form solid, authentic relationships. Be open to giving and receiving love more freely. Not everything has to be earned.
- Allow other people to take the lead (sometimes). With their commanding presence and direct approach, the Eight makes a great leader. But there are times when you need to step back and allow someone else to step up to the plate. It’s important for Eights to learn when it’s appropriate to let other people take charge.
Famous Enneagram Type 8s
- Kamala Harris
- Martin Luther King, Jr.
- Clint Eastwood
- Serena Williams
- Winston Churchill
- Barbara Walters
- Ernest Hemingway
- Queen Latifah
- Roseanne Barr
- Bernie Sanders
- Aretha Franklin
- Chelsea Handler
- Mark Cuban
- Pink
- Nick Cave
- Toni Morrison
- Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez
- Alec Baldwin
- “Rhett Butler” (Gone With the Wind)
- “Katniss Everdeen” (The Hunger Games)
- “Merida” (Brave)
- “Emily Gilmore” (Gilmore Girls)
- “Esmeralda” (The Hunchback of Notre Dame)
- “Alastor Moody” (Harry Potter)
Type 8s in Relationships
The Enneagram Type Eight in a romantic relationship focuses their attention on passion and intensity. They often surpass all other types in terms of both energy and the desire for the other partner to surrender to their lead. Eights see the world in terms of strength and weakness. When a spouse directly challenges them, Eights respect their partner even if they disagree, as they like to be met with a reaction in response to their passion. This makes Eights great at facing conflict. Though they may come across as intense, they don’t mind logically hashing an argument or changing their mind about something if they feel their spouse or partner can back up their point.
Eights will also protect the people they care about with their strength, energy and power. However, sometimes they forget to acknowledge their limits and desire intensity in all manner of stimulation with their drive to fill up the inner emptiness through physical gratification. This can focus on winning, food, sexual gratification, or any other type of gratification. The Eight does well to pull back, to take deep breaths, and to find a wider variety of smaller passions when necessary.
If you love an Eight, remember, they will love you hard and loyally if they feel you can be trusted. This is, however, a rather big “if” because, as most Eights know, they have often lost trust at an early age and are on their guard. However, they are excellent about sharing their frustrations, not usually overly fearful, and are not extremely bothered by showing their stamina and power in a disagreement. This is, indeed, the gift of the Eight.
A good growth practice is to remind your Eight to be self-controlled versus rapaciously always going after more. You can also encourage them to be helpful and not demanding and to trust a higher power versus always following only their own gut. This latter tendency can sometimes deter them from integrating their heart and thoughts or cause them to withdraw too quickly in relationships.
Enneagram Relationship content was co-developed with marital therapist turned relationship coach Christa Hardin (MA).
Type 8 Relationship Compatibility by Partner Type
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Type Eights with Type Ones: Tend to be both passionate and energized. Click here to find the Type 8 & Type 1 couple pairing guide.
- Type Eights with Type Twos: Tend to be both vibrant and helpful. Click here to find the Type 8 & Type 2 couple pairing guide.
- Type Eights with Type Threes: Tend to be both strong and goal-focused. Click here to find the Type 8 & Type 3 couple pairing guide.
- Type Eights with Type Fours: Tend to be both driven and creative. Click here to find the Type 8 & Type 4 couple pairing guide.
- Type Eights with Type Fives: Tend to be both strong and anchored. Click here to find the Type 8 & Type 5 couple pairing guide.
- Type Eights with Type Sixes: Tend to be both strong and loyal. Click here to find the Type 8 & Type 6 couple pairing guide.
- Type Eights with Type Sevens: Tend to be both passionate and energized. Click here to find the Type 8 & Type 7 couple pairing guide.
- Type Eights with Type Eights: Tend to be both strong and deeply caring. Click here to find the Type 8 & Type 8 couple pairing guide.
- Type Eights with Type Nines: Tend to be both driven and empathic. Click here to find the Type 8 & Type 9 couple pairing guide.