The Best Rom-Com for Each Enneagram Type

There’s nothing better than curling up on the couch and losing yourself in a sappy rom-com. But, instead of watching whatever mass-produced love story pops up on Netflix, why not choose a movie that speaks to your unique personality?

Read on to find out what romantic comedy is the perfect match for your Enneagram Type. Grab the popcorn and settle in! 

Type One: You’ve Got Mail 

As played by Meg Ryan, the character of Kathleen embodies the strong will and never-say-die attitude that Type One perfectionists aspire to. You’ll cheer her on as she fights to keep her charming bookstore open, despite a threat from a big corporate bookstore. Type Ones will relate to Kathleen’s strong moral compass and her determination to do what’s right, even when it’s difficult.

Both Kathleen and her love interest Joe (Tom Hanks) are on a journey of personal growth in this feel-good rom-com. This movie is the perfect match for Type Ones who need a reminder to not take themselves too seriously and let love (and life) surprise them in all the best ways.

Type Two: Your Place Or Mine 

In this movie, Debbie (Reese Witherspoon) and Peter (Ashton Kutcher) have been besties for 20 years, even though they couldn’t be more different. As a caring Type Two who gives so much to others, you’ll be entertained by how Debbie and Peter swap lives for a week so Peter can look after Debbie’s son while she flies to New York City to pursue her dream. Finally, a character who goes after their ambition without feeling guilty about it!

Both characters in the movie explore their needs and goals, which might resonate with you as you try to strike a balance between helping others and doing what’s right for you. Your Place or Mine is perfect for Type Twos who need a reminder to prioritize self-care and pursue their own dreams.

Type Three: The Proposal 

In The Proposal, success-obsessed Margaret (Sandra Bullock) is facing deportation, so she convinces her assistant, Andrew (Ryan Reynolds) to marry her in exchange for a promotion so she can keep her visa. The catch? She’s starting to have feelings for the guy. 

You’ll chuckle as you watch Margaret try to connect with Andrew's family and fit into his small-town life. Type Threes will identify with Margaret’s ambition and drive for success, but also relate to her journey of learning to let love in and not always be the perfect image of success. This movie is perfect for Type Threes who need a reminder that what makes you feel happiest in life might not always align with societal expectations. The heart wants what it wants. 

Type Four: High Fidelity 

Rob (John Cusack) is on an eternal quest to find love and figure out where he belongs, all seen through the lens of his obsession with creating the perfect mix tape. Sound familiar, Type Four? High Fidelity is a raw and complex movie, which is made entertaining by how Rob is selfish and lacks motivation to make positive changes in his life. 

As someone who’s highly introspective, you’ll find comfort in Rob’s brooding and existential crisis moments. This movie is perfect for Type Fours who need a reminder that sometimes, the grass isn’t always greener on the other side. Watching him navigate his insecurity will help you ditch the negative self-talk and appreciate what you have in front of you.

Type Five: My Big Fat Greek Wedding 

In this off-beat rom-com, Toula (Nia Vardalos) has to navigate her boisterous, demanding family’s rules to live the life she wants—which basically means having the freedom to be with her husband of choice, who is not of Greek heritage. Type Fives will identify with Toula’s desire for independence and struggle to find her own voice amid the chaos, while also maintaining relationships with her family.

You’ll laugh at Toula’s large and loud family dynamics while also empathizing with her desire to break free from expectations. This movie is perfect for Type Fives who need a reminder that it’s okay to open up to others and let them in, which is something you tend to struggle with.  

Type Six: The Princess Diaries 

In The Princess Diaries, Mia (Anne Hathaway) is a teenage girl trying to figure out who she is and where she belongs—sound familiar, Type Six? After discovering she’s the heir to a small European country’s throne, Mia struggles with her new identity and all the responsibilities that come with it.  You’ll enjoy watching her slowly adapt to a new way of living, from learning royal etiquette and Genovian history to figuring out if she has what it takes to be a princess. 

Since you value having security in your life and relationships, you’ll be inspired to take stock of your own life and where you feel happiest and safest. It’s inspiring to see Mia come into her own. Reach for your own crown, Sixes! 

Type Seven: Legally Blonde 

In Legally Blonde, ponytail-swishing Elle (Reese Witherspoon) is a die-hard Seven. She’s enthusiastic and driven to succeed, while having an upbeat attitude that gets her to the finish line. You’ll love seeing how she embraces unconventionality and doesn’t allow the world to pigeonhole her. 

As a Type Seven, you’re creative and the go-to problem-solver of your social circle. This movie will make you laugh and feel inspired to embrace your own quirks and individuality. If Elle can conquer the stereotypes of a sorority girl, so can you! 

Type Eight: Sweet Home Alabama

In Sweet Home Alabama, Melanie (Reese Witherspoon) has to choose between living a fast-paced life in New York and heading back to her quiet hometown in Alabama. The movie’s message that you can’t live two lives while being true to yourself will resonate with you as an Eight. You love chasing drama and excitement, but sometimes this can get in the way of gazing into your heart to find out what you really want and need to be happy. 

It’ll be interesting for you to watch as Melanie, who initially looks down at her hometown, starts to open up and realize it could offer her love and happiness. Sometimes you have to let go of control and just enjoy the moment.

Type Nine: Shakespeare In Love 

Nines, prepare to be swept off your feet as you watch Shakespeare in Love, a fictional take on William Shakespeare’s life when he wrote his play, Romeo and Juliet. In the movie, William (Joseph Fiennes) has writer’s block and is struggling to make ends meet when he meets his perfect woman, Viola (Gwyneth Paltrow). She becomes his muse, inspiring him to write his famous play.

The movie is a celebration of passion and creativity, which will appeal to Nines who strive to explore their artistic expression. As a Nine, you sometimes struggle to assert yourself, so you’ll also enjoy watching characters solidify their identities and figure out their societal roles.